tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post7909448483689474064..comments2024-03-04T08:26:00.592-08:00Comments on Little Pitchers: Self-EsteemBecky Pitcherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18125808612297417061noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-85423139942111925212013-04-18T19:21:15.214-07:002013-04-18T19:21:15.214-07:00And just for the record--I really love this about ...And just for the record--I really love this about you. You have always been self-confident in a quiet way (if that is possible?). What I mean is that you never force your self-confidence on others or come across judgmental or condescending. It is quite the opposite, in fact, which always awes me and makes me respect who you are as a human. I remember when I came over when I was just a few weeks pregnant with the twins. I was so sick and gross, yet you made me feel beautiful. And when I worried about stretch marks, you proudly showed me your stretch marks without a moment's thought. You were proud of them and unashamed! It was what it was and there was nothing but beauty in that. You may not remember that moment but it was pivotal for me because I knew I could love myself no matter what happened to my body. I was a beautiful, sacred vessel. And when my breasts deflated after nursing, I remembered your candid blog posts about that...and I loved you even more all over again.<br /><br />Thank you, Becky. You are loved.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390447124868968342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-57066825577900216802013-04-18T19:17:40.469-07:002013-04-18T19:17:40.469-07:00I'm proud to call you friend, Becky. :)I'm proud to call you friend, Becky. :)Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390447124868968342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-53900854998829771522013-04-18T10:58:22.254-07:002013-04-18T10:58:22.254-07:00http://realbeautysketches.dove.us/
Have you seen ...http://realbeautysketches.dove.us/<br /><br />Have you seen the dove video about beauty/ self esteem? I think you'd love it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15305985580580281935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-41734835955860726052013-04-18T08:06:49.424-07:002013-04-18T08:06:49.424-07:00I too have a high self esteem and often get hurt t...I too have a high self esteem and often get hurt that people don't think I am amazing as I think I am. And then I laugh about it because it is out of place in this world to think well of yourself. I am grateful for my opinion of myself. You are also an Aries which helps a lot too. I get mine from my Cap/Leo combo. I think the best thing you can do for other women is lead by example. Show people it's ok to think well of yourself.tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04352224276338006212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-83638173526391086492013-04-18T07:21:53.560-07:002013-04-18T07:21:53.560-07:00I am glad to know that there is someone else out t...I am glad to know that there is someone else out there like me. I seriously was starting to think that there was something wrong with me because I didn't hate myself. :) I am not a perfectionist, my parents raised me to be very independent, and my mom was a great example of what a woman should be.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01770131299773368111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-70016754462350386632013-04-18T00:28:03.031-07:002013-04-18T00:28:03.031-07:00I truly enjoyed this. So many lessons for myself a...I truly enjoyed this. So many lessons for myself and for me as a mother. Thank you for being bold in your frustration and for acknowledging each individuals wonderfulness!!Allred'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01746723196504014937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-11842332688860677412013-04-17T20:24:00.156-07:002013-04-17T20:24:00.156-07:00and really random....I just realized that I'm ...and really random....I just realized that I'm 75% positive you were in our ward in Provo before we moved to Boston. I think you'd just had your boys but I was super sick and pregnant at the time ergo not super talkative. Plus that ward was HUGE! Random! But I noticed you because I thought you were really pretty and I like your pixie and your boys were super cute! Small world.Jessica Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16294509400474780332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-12785394412073450362013-04-17T20:20:20.277-07:002013-04-17T20:20:20.277-07:00This truly spoke to me. I needed it this week! New...This truly spoke to me. I needed it this week! New follower over here :)Jessica Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16294509400474780332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-10093194321839552962013-04-17T19:40:15.723-07:002013-04-17T19:40:15.723-07:00http://jamesfaulconer.byu.edu/papers/self_image.pd...http://jamesfaulconer.byu.edu/papers/self_image.pdf<br /><br />Just something to think about.David Harrison Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15728012396623920299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-82797430406164522682013-04-17T14:28:53.364-07:002013-04-17T14:28:53.364-07:00So I'm totally a silent reader and never comme...So I'm totally a silent reader and never comment... however, I just read your post, which was really awesome, and then I was on Facebook and clicked on this link a friend had posted.<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=XpaOjMXyJGk#!<br /><br />The way we view ourselves vs. the way others view us. <br /><br /><br />I'm realizing this seems pretty spammy, but I just thought it was such a coincidence to come across these two things in the same afternoon :)libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12200639689292302835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-63810008211534482412013-04-16T20:58:41.614-07:002013-04-16T20:58:41.614-07:00HERE HERE!!!
Gosh...our families are ridiculousl...HERE HERE!!!<br /><br /><br />Gosh...our families are ridiculously similar given what you wrote in your numbered list! <br /><br />I wish I could say my self-esteem is always great, but it's been the biggest struggle of my life. I will overcome it. Satan's biggest lie to me is that I am not enough. Wanna know his second biggest lie to me? That I am TOO MUCH. Go figure that one out!<br /><br />xo,<br />AAngelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05363936268951050838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-37108296719796662072013-04-16T20:32:45.806-07:002013-04-16T20:32:45.806-07:00This was fantastic.
I seriously can't believ...This was fantastic. <br /><br />I seriously can't believe that someone as amazing as you lives down the road from me! Bethany Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11365631300039840059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-2971252863469443992013-04-16T19:27:55.535-07:002013-04-16T19:27:55.535-07:00loved everything about this. you are blessed to ha...loved everything about this. you are blessed to have had positive role models!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02094767115652536279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-59481734322348894162013-04-16T17:13:18.709-07:002013-04-16T17:13:18.709-07:00You hit the nail on the head with #1 and #2. Those...You hit the nail on the head with #1 and #2. Those are two things that were lacking in my family and I've always seen the effect it had on my self-esteem. My husband is a lot like your dad though, so I'm hoping things will be different in our family. I am trying, but it is HARD not to copy what you have been raised with. AlissaBChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10283525535089539913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-40022080076261877222013-04-16T12:58:29.905-07:002013-04-16T12:58:29.905-07:00I love this post, and I really enjoy it when you b...I love this post, and I really enjoy it when you branch out to address other topics. You are such a great writer! I have high self esteem also, and definitely as a result of my upbringing, although it was quite different to yours. <br /><br />My mum was critical of her body but never hid it from me and as I result there may be things I want to change about myself but I am accepting of how I look and don't hide my body.My mum also always told me how she was proud of me, but let me know when I wasn't working hard enough so as a result I set high standards for myself and this has been really beneficial to me.<br /><br />I was thinking recently about where I derive my self-worth from, and a large part of it, for me, comes from my academic achievements. I like to make an effort with my appearance and wear clothes I think are nice but I don't spend that much time on my hair or make up so my attractiveness isn't a large feature in this. To me, good grades, work ethic and the like are a way to measure whether I am living up to my standards. <br /><br />Also, I love the fact that your father praises your mother so much. I didn't have this growing up as my mum was a single parent, but my fiance is always complimenting me and we always thank and praise each other for chores done, and I'm glad to think that our children (if and when!) will experience this.Jess Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04661325566326595590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-53589668960347359452013-04-16T12:48:06.027-07:002013-04-16T12:48:06.027-07:00This is a great post! So well written and relatab...This is a great post! So well written and relatable. It's interesting to hear your experiences and think back to my own childhood (of divorced parents)and compare and contrast. Thanks for sharing!Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14099087199286343162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-25113657634441418742013-04-16T12:41:20.302-07:002013-04-16T12:41:20.302-07:00I LOVE THIS! And I love that you said that society...I LOVE THIS! And I love that you said that society expects us to have low self esteem. It's so true! Thanks for sharing!Alexa Zurcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11748504785073663640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-20598369184866639262013-04-16T12:18:40.233-07:002013-04-16T12:18:40.233-07:00Ama,
I both agree and disagree with some of the th...Ama,<br />I both agree and disagree with some of the things you've said. I hope that you don't think that I look down on women with low self-esteem. On the contrary! It is because I am constantly in awe of women that do not think they are amazing, that I wrote this post. Having high self-esteem is extremely difficult, and I know I was blessed to grow up in a magnificent and unique home. It is frustrating and often confusing to me that people do not recognize their own self-worth, but that in itself does not mean I don't have empathy for them. <br />Secondly, I know that bullying is a huge problem, which I kind of addressed. I think that as adults, we have a responsibility to ourselves and our children to stop bullying and being unkind, but to support and love each other - which helps people love themselves. <br />Also, I agree that just because I have high self-esteem, doesn't mean that I think I am finished being better. In fact, because I think a lot of myself, I think that I am worth improving. I am worth the effort it takes to be better, and I know that I am capable of being my best self. <br />Having high self-esteem doesn't mean that I think I'm perfect, but that I am alright with my imperfections and I know I can ultimately change the things about myself that I dislike. <br />And I think that it's okay for me to say that all women should have higher self-esteem. I don't think that's bullying. Certainly if I said that everyone should feel the same way about themselves as I do, or that everyone should grow up in a home that is the same as mine - that is bullying. Wanting women to love themselves? That seems like the opposite of bullying to me. Becky Pitcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18125808612297417061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-26930215287791164222013-04-16T12:17:11.540-07:002013-04-16T12:17:11.540-07:00I love this post so so much. I am one of those wom...I love this post so so much. I am one of those women who have always struggled with self-esteem issues. But since having my daughter 6 months ago, I have found that my confidence is beginning to flourish, and as conceided as it may sound, I love it. Growing up my mother was constantly bombarding herself with negative comments about her image. I have no doubt that that is where a lot of my self-esteem issues stemmed from. I don't want that for my daughter, because that road led me to a very dark place for a good portion of my life. <br /><br />You are beautiful, and I won't lie and say that I'm not jealous of your cooking/sewing/mothering skills, because well, you are pretty awesome =) The world needs more Beckys. That is all.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670847354432943893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-65769353790989767382013-04-16T12:14:32.928-07:002013-04-16T12:14:32.928-07:00This is probably my new favorite post. Someone sh...This is probably my new favorite post. Someone should make a Mormon Message out of this :)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978646910802175422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-16218534216184443102013-04-16T11:53:37.499-07:002013-04-16T11:53:37.499-07:00Becky... this post brought me to tears. It is has...Becky... this post brought me to tears. It is has been so awesome to watch you (through your blog) grow into the beautiful woman and mother that you are!Kim Lovejoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17239803812682307850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-29761251587765475782013-04-16T11:44:28.903-07:002013-04-16T11:44:28.903-07:00I am frustrated by your post, and I hope my less-t...I am frustrated by your post, and I hope my less-than-praisey comment doesn't ban me from your blog because I do enjoy reading it, but a couple things struck me here.<br /><br />First of all, I think it's beautiful that you are able to find the light inside yourself and see your true self-worth. I think you hit the nail on the head that it had to do with your upbringing, but I think it's important to notice when you meet women/girls that the fortunate home you describe is truly not the average home and what comes easy to you may be the hardest struggle to someone who doesn't have those values bred within them. Having sensitivity to the fact that it's not always easy allows for empathy when it comes to self-esteem issues instead of comments like, "I just don't understand how a woman can have low self esteem".<br /><br />Also, I'm sure as a woman in our time period, you are rightly aware that bullying among females is just as prevalent as bullying among men. Kids are mean, and girls are mean to each other. When we are young (and often when we grow up) we are judgmental and unsupportive of other women. I find a lot of girls saying they just don't have very many "good girl-friends". <br /><br />Even for those of us who grew up in positive homes with positive attitudes have been taught to be critical of ourselves through our environment, which makes maintaining self-esteem difficult and also produces those books for parents, on how to teach their girls to be positive about themselves. Our culture, while it improves all the time, is still teaching girls to compete with each other as opposed to support each other.<br /><br />Third, I am a beautiful woman, from a comfortable cushy home with a beautiful mother and I can see my strengths, but I think it's important to always look for ways to grow, both physically and mentally, and while that may come across as low self esteem to someone outside myself, it is more a pledge to humble myself. <br /><br />I don't think it's negative for you to say positive things about yourself. We should praise ourselves in small ways all of the time, and acknowledging your beauty or talents is good, but I hope to encourage you not to impose <i>your</i> ideas of self-esteem and how easy it's come to you on other women in different situations. It's just another form of bullying.Amahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181087155441835320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-20711853340617517442013-04-16T11:23:56.142-07:002013-04-16T11:23:56.142-07:00There are a lot of things that my parents weren...There are a lot of things that my parents weren't the best at (financial and health education, for example) but self esteem they got exactly right. I would like to lose 50+ lbs, but I still like and love myself. I'm awesome at my job, most days I'm a pretty good mom, and I know I am very good at my church calling. I think I'm pretty, but I KNOW I'm beautiful. Knowing I am a child of God is the biggest part of why I think I (and everyone else for that matter) is really very great. High five soul sister!Betsy Hite Reddochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02419016376737770125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376105108093150009.post-59494736073761000702013-04-16T10:52:55.415-07:002013-04-16T10:52:55.415-07:00Beautiful! Thank you!Beautiful! Thank you!Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02164796646688229980noreply@blogger.com