Okay. Twin moms:
Is there ANYONE whose twins sleep through the night without crying it out?
Here's my boys' problem at night (as far as I can understand): they are too wiggly.
The problem is NOT that they do not know how to self-soothe. It is not that they can't put themselves to sleep.
Because I have seen both of them put themselves to sleep by themselves dozens of times. I have seen them flicker between wake and sleep, even shout out and cry, and then choose to go back to sleep.
The problem is that they like to move it, move it. Even in deep sleep.
They get this from their mom, as a kid I always woke up somewhere different than I went to sleep. And I don't mean that I just had my head at the foot of the bed (although that happened a million times.)
I mean, I would wake curled up on the stair landing. Or in an dry bathtub. Or the living room floor.
How did I get there? Nobody knows.
I fear that as soon as my boys can walk, they'll be the same.
Grey and Micah sleep swaddled. They cannot sleep unswaddled, because they are so wiggly. If they sleep unswaddled they move even more and wake themselves up and they won't go to sleep because their hands are free to pull out their pacifier (and then stick it back in, and then pull it out, and then stick it back in, which they're obsessed with doing and which properly distracts them from sleep.)
Because they're so wiggly they always slip out of their swaddles and I have to go in and reswaddle them.
But the real problem isn't even that they slip out of their swaddles, because even then, I've seen them put themselves back to sleep.
The real problem is that they wiggle themselves into really uncomfortable positions and then they don't know how to get out of them.
The two most common positions for me to find them in are this:
1. pressed into the top corner of their bed, with their head against the bars and 1-3 limbs stuck through the bars, which they cannot figure out how to free and which is probably quite painful.
2. lying lengthwise in the crib, which they are too long to do. Then the top of their head is pressed painfully against the bars, and their legs eventually end up sticking out between the bars, making it completely impossible for them to right themselves.
I mean, is this normal?
And I don't want to let them cry it out, because they don't just cry. They don't whimper or bawl or whatever is normal for babies.
They scream like they have the Cruciatus curse upon them. They turn purple, they stop breathing (or begin hyperventilating), they claw their own faces and stomachs, and mostly: they writhe.
They writhe and move and wiggle and scream until they are so uncomfortable that I cannot not go in there. It is cruel not to help them.
GAH. I don't know what to do.
Did anyone have a similar problem? What do I do?
I need someone's help, because last night I had to go help Grey re-situate himself no less than 6 times.
And we have lots of fans and white noise, because maybe you remember that the boys talk in their sleep? So we need lots of distracting noises to help us tune them out, but which unfortunately means that I only hear the boys when they're pretty hysterical.
So by the time I go in to help Grey get his legs unstuck from the bars, he's been in there bellowing for ten minutes and it takes me a while to calm him back down and then I'm like "Well I might as well nurse him, so I don't have to get up again in an hour and do it."
But then, yeah. I'm up in an hour anyway.
I'm tired, guys.