Fact: it is Friday: Where I talk about myself. On Fridays.
I don't talk about my babies, unless I want to, which sometimes I might. But mostly Fact: it is Friday is when I'm going to tell you something you maybe didn't know about me.
Or perhaps a story from my bucktoothed-childhood or bratty teenage years.
Becky Fact 17: I love babies. I am in a constant state of Baby Craze.
Before I got married, I was like "Sure, Travis, we can totally wait two years before we start having kids. No problemo."
One day after we were married I was like "Get me pregnant! We need a baby! I'm throwing this birth control out the window!"
But he didn't, we didn't, and I didn't.
Together we managed to fight off my desire for a multitude of babies for nine. entire. months.
At which time I stopped fighting it, and Travis stopped fighting it. And we gave in.
We wanted to get pregnant.
And pregnant I got.
You guys, I'm not pregnant now. We're not trying to get pregnant. I know, alright, that it would be insane for me to get pregnant now, and so I'm not as baby crazy as I once was.
But if I found out I was pregnant right now, I wouldn't be disappointed.
Ecstatic might be the right word.
No. Overjoyed, but not ecstatic.
Aw, who I am I kidding? Ecstatic it is.
Here's a story:
When I first saw my two day-old babies lying together in a crib, I started sobbing. I kept repeating to Travis "Oh my gosh, I wish they were triplets. I love them so much, I wish we had more."
I've moved on past that, to extreme gratefulness that I don't have triplets. One baby wouldn't be enough, but three babies would be too much. So two is perfect.
But seriously. I don't think that is a normal reaction.
When did you start thinking about another baby? Was it in the hospital, holding your brand new baby? (or babies?)
Although I do have to admit, I've gotten really used to my cushy 9 hours of sleep a night and when a baby wakes me up at 4am with a poopy diaper I start having meltdowns.
Who does that dumb baby think he is?!
A friend recently brought her twins home from the hospital and I promised I'd spend the night tonight and help out.
And I will. That's the plan.
But you guys... I'm freaking out. I'm scared. I remember nights of no sleep, and they were the worst thing ever.
Perhaps this night will be the kick in the pants that I need to remain unpregnant for another few months.
Unless it's not hard and I feel great tomorrow, in which case Travis may be in for some very persuasive talk of babies.
Hmmm.... So what do you think? Am I insane, or is baby-hunger the norm?
Fact: I would love it if you voted for me:
And then go write a Friday Fact:
A few hours after my baby was born, I decided I wanted another one. I'm not even kidding.
I've spent the greater part of his 14 months wanting another baby just like him. You're right: one baby is not enough, at least not for me. I wore down hubby a few months ago, and we've been actively trying since October :)
Good luck tonight. I hope you get just the right amount of sleep to help you make the right decision.
Well as another mom to twin 12 month old boys- I think you are crazy! :) JK- we are done, our family of four completes us...you have to do what is right for your family. Who knows you may have another set of twins! :)
I think your crazy. But judging from your last post you seem to have lots of energy and you seem to be getting lots done. Now imagine being pregnant, sick and exhausted and trying to take care of twins. I can't come help anytime soon. I managed to want a baby for 7 years and put it off because I didn't want to puke my guts out for 9 months. I do love babies and I'm glad you can fill that need for me. As far as being up in the night, I loved being with you and helping and it was like a vacation when I got home, or when you left and I got a full night sleep again. Remember what Kathryn said about Mommy mode kicks in and you can manage with less sleep. Just don't do anything yet... please.
Um...basically we are the same. Daily I tell me husband we need more of these babies. And that I'm jealous that you had twins and I didn't. One pregnancy for two awesome babies! It's a win-win. My son is about a month younger than your boys, and the only reason I am controlling my baby hunger is I want a natural delivery (my first was a C-section) and so I must control my baby hunger (more like starvation) and wait.
But I do not think you are crazy. Babies are awesome.
Since my girls are almost a year and a half, I've been getting the "so when is baby 3 (or something people say 3&4) coming along?" I usually look at them with a blank stare and say, "If we're lucky, in 5 years." Seriously though, I have yet to feel a smidge of baby hunger since I had my girls. So props to you, Becky. You are far more ambitious than I!
My twin boys are 1 today (yay!) and I've been back and forth about wanting more kids. A 6 months I was like "bring it on!" But from 9-12 months I've been wondering if our family is already complete. Now that it's been a full year since my c-section I can get pregnant and try for a v-bac, so that's nice. If I found out I was pregnant right now I would probably be happy, so maybe it is time to try for #3 (and 4?). After all, I'm no spring chicken. YOU however have plenty of time. Just do what feels right for your family, and keep rocking motherhood. And this blog :)
My little boy is 4 months old and I have a 5 year old daughter and I crave a baby a lot. All the time. Right after I gave birth I told my husband I wanted another. I talk about babies constantly and he somehow puts up with it and agreed to 4, although now I'm trying to create wiggle room for a fifth, haha. And I would love twins, but I love being pregnant and I LOVE giving birth and want to do it as much as possible, so I'm happy with the one at a time approach too.
Do you ever think about the time when you'll be done having babies? I worry that I won't feel done and won't be happy. A lot of which comes from my near nervous breakdown from my first baby turning five, I'm sure. How did this happen? Why do they grow up so fast?
I was ready for more when I took my first shower in the hospital after Luke was born and felt how weird and empty my belly was... we managed to wait seven months before getting pregnant again, haha. :)
I love my eight month old and would love to have another! five babies in six years sounds great to me. haha. I think I am crazy because some days I can't handle the one I have. But, I realized how lazy and selfish I was having my first, and I became a much better person after having one, I can only imagine the challenges and blessings that come from having two! (or three, or four!) Some people have different goals in life. Mine (and it seems like yours) is to be a mother of many, to have my children in my twenties, raise them in my thirties and guide them in my fourties. and that is what brings me joy. So to the nay sayers I say: I am crazy, but all I've ever wanted is to be crazy.
I think you have to do what's right for your family. I had triplet girls for my first pregnancy. For us 3 kids was the perfect number at the time. But then when the girls turned 2 I felt like I was ready for #4!!! So a year later we had our little boy. Now 3 yrs later I love our family of 6! Wouldn't have it any other way. People looked at us like we were absolutely crazy! 4 kids 3 and under! But you know what it's been good for us and couldn't imagine it any other way!
Excuse me, Spencer family, i'd love to read your blog but when i clicked on your name, it showed me 'No posts'. How can I access it? Have a nice day!
Laurine, from France.
Becky, having babies when you're young is easiest. God gives you the strength to handle the sleepless nights, the sore boobs, the sick kids, the jealous older babies, the puking, the icky diapers, the giggles, the kisses, the cuddles, the sticky fingers - all of it is worth it. I enjoyed having my kids young, now look how I am still around and able to enjoy my grandchildren and great grandchildren. Do what's right for you and your little family but think of the time a new baby will take from enjoying the boys you already have.
And by the way, DO NOT wash that quilt top before you send it to me, wait until after it is quilted and bound or you will have an awful mess. Love you.
Hi Laurine from France,
If your interested in reading my blog (or anyone else..) you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I can add you as a reader. I have a private blog, but don't mind adding people who are interested in reading about our everyday lives!
I'm still desparately clinging to the hope that I can get pregnant one day. We've been trying for 19 months as of yesterday evening. 19 months with not even a hint of conceiving. I am so so glad it was so easy for you, though. Please don't misunderstand me. I just know that if I can go 19 months without getting pregnant, you, who has not one but TWO beautiful babies, can wait at least that long. :-)
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